True love that is pure and passionate is utterly and completely exclusive. In the climax of the Song of Solomon (8:6-7) here is how the Bible defines true love.
Love is as strong as death,
its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
like a mighty flame.
Many waters cannot quench love;
rivers cannot sweep it away.
If one were to give
all the wealth of one’s house for love,
It would be utterly scorned.
Do you sense the passion and power of the unquenchable flame of true love? Would you describe the love you have for your partner in that way?
This kind of love finds its origins in the hearts and minds that are consecrated, where vows of marriage are protected with a passion, and where lives are unsoiled from the world. I believe that couples can cultivate the passion and power of true love, not because they married the right person, but because with God’s help they become the person their partner longs for.
Have you been looking after your garden, the sacred inner space of your private world? What have you allowed in? The lovers in the Song of Solomon talk about about catching the little foxes that spoil the vineyards. Do you have little foxes in your vineyard? Can you think of what some of those little foxes might look like?
To protect and cultivate the love life of your secret garden takes diligence, discipline and work, but when there is true love, it’s really not work at all.